The Flow of Fruition Story
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By GILL BENTHAM
Fight, Flight (or Learn)
The natural response, to fight or flight in a threatening situation is well documented! Having learned to compose myself in situations that demand a more measured approach, as a nurse under pressure or as a leader with a consciousness of my influence and impact upon others, I also recognise that there is a third way. That is to freeze.
In a baby or small mammal alarmed by a sudden noise, we see this shock or freeze reaction just before the flight or fight (a bawl as in the case of a baby). This can give a momentary state of high acuity to danger and strategy, at least give an idea to the threatened subject of whether to fight or take flight.
I believe there is a boundary between these states which if we understand and use to our benefit can save us from the wrong and potentially catastrophic decision. If we fearfully flee, we risk the loss of running from a major benefit we fail to perceive. Or if we fight, we may become harmed by a threat that we are not matched for.
What if instead we simply lean? We give both ourselves and the supposed aggressor, the benefit of the doubt?
I experienced a powerful example of this principle years ago as a staff nurse on a cardiac medical ward. One elderly man had become disorientated and frightened and failed to understand that the little plastic box looped around his neck with a soft piece of bandage was actually a temporary pacemaker. He fought with me in the corridor of the ward. His frustration was targeted at the piece of hardware hanging around his neck. It was connected to a subcutaneous wire that directly entered and stimulated the wall of his heart muscle! (Things have progressed since the late 1980’s!). This was usual practice before a permanent pacemaker was fitted so that the consultant cardiologist could prescribe the correct frequency and amplitude of the electrical stimulation through the external controls until a suitable regime was decided upon for the eventual settings of the implanted pacemaker.
The poor man was mistaking his “necklace” as a foreign body and he found my approach threatening. I had to shadow him because he had removed the bandage from his neck and all that stood between him and a potentially fatal arrhythmia was my attempt to keep the slack on his vulnerable pacemaker wire!!
My leaning (or learning) services can be found as The Flow of fruition online modules – a virtual school by the same name of this blog. Link here to my school
I see my service as an attempt to walk closely on behalf of those who may not fully grasp both the potential and vulnerability they carry. In seeking to undo knots iand release genius, or a flow of fruition, it is always better to work into rather than pull away from the tangle, relieving the tension of frustration and liberating fruitfulness.
My patient all those years ago did not understand that by my holding him and the pacemaker box firmly without tension, I was able to prevent a medical emergency. I suggest that to lean into your situation which may seem threatening and inexplicable to you can be equally valuable It may give you the clues you need to befriend the situation or walk away from it without harm, gain new wisdom and even a good friend.
The Flow of Fruition Story
The secret of the Flow of Fruition is to expect the right fruit at the right stage of life
I have always had a passion for helping people, learning and being able to help others do the same. Being a person that continues to grow and develop in wisdom and understanding drove me. So much so, that now I often receive comments such as ‘Thank you for your wisdom’, or ‘How did you know that?’
It’s simple really. As a lifelong journaller I’ve done some of the hard work of thinking things through and then working through those same thorny issues of life.
There are questions we sometimes fail to ask, let alone answer. How do you think I got this stuff? It was through life lessons – some of them rather unwelcome. I am determined they will not be wasted.
I applied myself to come out refined – with pearls of wisdom rather than a bitter heart. I developed a framework – a pattern and a rhythm of life I recognise, behind so much of our experience, proven over and over again. For better or for worse, I see this working out in lives, communities and businesses. It explains success and it explains failure.
So instead of talking about success (its definition is SO variable) or failure (some deny it, some learn from it and others are finished by it), I want to work with people like you who are tired of the schemes and the promises yet still hope for more. Some of my ideas are finished and published and others are abundant, yet raw and unfinished. I have so much left to do and say and I am excited to share this journey and reflective investigation of the Flow of Fruition. It will be the basis of my future efforts as a writer. It is a shared learning experience and a trip toward deep fulfilment and fruit in keeping with the desires of your heart.
Let’s explore some wisdom for life.
Below is an animation of the cycle of the Flow of Fruition through its five elements. I work with my clients through each of these in sequence.
Understood and applied in sequence, they enable the healthy sap of fruition to flow up and out into every aspect of your life…..
- Pinpoint ORIGINal vision
- Articulate POSITION
- Maximise FUNCTION
- Attain to great STATURE
- Experience the law of ATTRACTION
- Release the Flow of fruition
My inspiration is the Giant Sequioa. It is the largest living organism in the whole earth.
There is no limit to what you can achieve as an individual, in community and with those like-minded.
Are you are keen (or desperate) to re-frame your thinking and therefore refresh your energy ?
- deep and satisfying relationships
- a belief system to strengthen and uphold rather than falling apart under stress
- ability to aim again courageously toward longed for outcomes in life
- ability to dive into a meaningful second half of life
- ability to do what you love and love what you do so much so that you can’t tell where work stops and play begins?
The let your Flow of Fruition begin to rise!